Molding the Ideal of Sex in Your Recovery


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Unfortunately, every person on this Earth has some problems when it comes to sex. This goes for everyone who has an alcohol addiction and attends an alcohol rehab program as well. Part of the 12 Steps, according to Chapter 5 of the Big Book, is to assess where you were at with this in your past and where you are at with it now. It states, “Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Whom had we hurt? Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion, or bitterness? Where we were at fault, what should we have done instead?” Have you ever written these things down or stopped to ask yourself these questions. Most people haven’t. We can get more into how you can do this here today.

Selfish, Dishonest, and Inconsiderate

These are the first three things you are going to look at when molding your ideal of sex in your recovery. Being in recovery means working on your entire self. This includes how you view sex because if you have unhealthy views, they could you to a relapse in your alcohol addiction. Think back on if you were ever selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate in a relationship? If you were, write it down, and work on making your amends.

Jealousy, Suspicion, and Bitterness

In your past, have you inspired jealousy in someone? Have you been suspicious of someone else’s behavior or made them suspicious of yours? Were you ever bitter towards an ex? These things will probably follow you into current and future relationships if you don’t work on them. They could haunt your recovery and later on, lead you to a relapse. If you want a better chance of staying sober, you may want to write these things down and work on them.

At Fault Situations

Everyone has situations in their life when they are at fault. There isn’t a person in this world who doesn’t. When you think back on your life, before and during your addictive lifestyle, when were you at fault? When you think in regards to your relationships, is there some way that you hurt another person? If so, now is the time to work on that. Now is the time to let them know you are sorry and hope they forgive you. While not everyone will be quick to forgive, this is the first step towards getting past that situation and forgiving yourself for it. Let the people whom you have hurt know what you did wrong and why you are sorry. Don’t make excuses, just state it plain and simple.

When you are attending an alcohol rehabilitation center, you might work on this part of the 12 Steps. There are other parts you will work on as well. However, if you want to have healthier current and future relationships, these are some of the things you will need to go through. Start thinking about your past. Start thinking about your ideal of sex that you want for your recovery and future lifestyle. Write down the things mentioned above and most of all, apologize to those you have hurt, including yourself.

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Esra Ahmed - MS, NCC, LPC, MHSP

Experienced Clinical Director with a demonstrated history of working in the hospital & health care industry. Skilled in Anger Management, Healthcare, Medicine, EMDR, and Life Transitions. Strong healthcare services professional with a Masters Degree focused in Psychology from The University of Memphis.

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